Usually guys propose girl to get married but the opposite happen sometime. To me its a bit strange, i like traditional things and it dosn’t feel right. The man should be strong enough to take his responsability, to feel the right moment and take his courage. If its the girl who do it i believe something wrong. Well its my personal opinion, people may have their reason, their story, every human are different and unique so why not. But i believe its strange and it reveal some weakness in the couple. How about you?

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    1. I agree with you ilona dear. As nature has bestowed qualities on both sides and males are strong and have the responsibility to propose the opposite sex with his quality. I too believe in traditional ways in this matter

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  1. I agree with you. I think the man should take the lead. I worked all my professional life to bring equality for women, and equal pay, but in my very happy marriage of 44 years, I always let my husband lead our family. 🤗

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  2. I totally agree with you Ilona on this! I too like traditional things and this is one of them. Why would the man not want to propose? It does show strength on his part and I believe it will lead to a stronger marriage and a stronger love and bond between the man and woman. I know today a lot of traditional things no longer apply with people and that is their choice. But personally I prefer the traditional way with marriage and that starts with the proposal. Great thoughts Ilona! Have a wonderful evening!!😃😁🌙😺

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    1. I would not date a man if he had no plans to marry. So I fled pretty quick since they didn’t want to commit to a serious relationship. It is better to know these things right away rather than date and be disappointed down the road. The topic of kids is another major thing that needs to be discussed at the beginning of the relationship.

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  3. Oh! I just don’t like a girl going all the way in a relationship with a man. May be I’m weird but thats me. Like you said I like it when a man mans up to take up his position in a relationship. Not vice versa. And most relationships initiated by the girl fails – 95% of them. 3% survive because the girl has super control – to say whether it dies or lives. There are whole lots of disadvantages. So for me let the man be man and the woman woman. The man should propose.

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  4. i guess in most if not all relationships, even same sex relationships or gender neutral relationships, there may be a « male » or something relating to a « male » role.

    what maybe right for one may not be right for another and we should respect to views even if different than our own.

    if the couple is at the point where marriage is a possibility, then i would hope some sort of understanding of roles in the relationship has been defined.

    i would not be upset if the woman i was with proposed to me.

    i dont think one should be so stuck in « tradition » as not to move forward in life.

    just as long as the couple is happy, isnt that all that should matter?

    another good post to help us think and show we are all a bit different and can get along.

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    1. Agree with you Buddy! There r always norms but not everyone is created the same way. Good point about the couple’s shared understanding. When relationship is at that level, proposing is a formality in my opinion.

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  5. I met my husband the non-conventional way. We met on a dating site called OkCupid. I’m not sure if you are familiar with that dating site. He didn’t ask me out, but rather, he asked me to meet him…. 4 hours away. I have never done anything so daring in my life but I had nothing to lose. And clearly, I made the right choice.

    When he proposed, it wasn’t in a restaurant or in a park. It was in the basement of a house we were renting. He ordered my ring online, and when it arrived, he gave it to me while I was watching TV one afternoon and asked me to marry him. Yup, not exactly the most traditional….

    Not to mention, I was 4 months pregnant at my wedding and people had no idea. That’s not very conventional either. He kept his promise, that, if he got me pregnant, he would marry me. When I got pregnant we were already engaged, and I had just gone through a devastating miscarriage in 2015. My mother will never forgive me for that, but she’s had miscarriages and understands that kind of loss. She was more worried that my wedding dress wouldn’t fit.

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  6. I don’t wish to reinforce the hard line traditional way of becoming engaged. I married my present husband when we were in our forties. It was a conversation and we both agreed we wanted to be married. He bought me an engagement ring and we started planning our wedding. We are still together.

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    1. Thats a beautiful story, i think when it comes to love and you love each other so so so much, there is no tabu anymore and doesn’t matter who takes the step to talk about it or who does propose to who, as long as it makes you happy💚, i have wrote post, about engagement, i was engaged ones, the post called HOW THE FUCKER FUCKUP MY LIFE, because he really did:)

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  7. Hey Ilona, Agree 🤔 Can i? Agree with one point men CAN take the lead. But this tradition is created by US. We are humans we created our own tradition. Man being a man only when he takes the lead is a beleif. How many of people here let the women lead? Women do better than men, smarter than men. When comes to relationship i would say  » Strength of a Men and Smartness of a women are a successful relationship  » . Sometime vice versa is no Problem. And who created this tradition? Ofcourse WE are the creators of everything and we can create NEW tradition!

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    1. Hello Simon, i think is all depend about the personality, some women waiting this kind of action from the guy, other women may take the step and make the proposition. As i’m not someone who could dominate in the relationship, i prefer to wait until the guy will do it. In France most of times is the guy who does it, we call it traditional way, but these days tradition has changed a bit and the girls took the power, hehe😁.

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  8. Hey there . Let’s agree to disagree I would say. My take is – either of way, a relationship is about expressing to the other. Be it the man or the woman, it is about being open. Love. Say it loud. Be bold. Perhaps it varies across cultures. When you say a man must be strong and take responsibility, I cannot seem to agree there..Both the partners are equally responsible.

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  9. « Usually guys propose to the girl to get married but the opposite happens sometimes »
    Hmm.. my First thought was/is i can’t remember anyone doing this where i live
    but then i thought about it a moment and said wait! that happened twice
    to me at the Dance Hall.. Two Young Women said they would Love to
    Be Married to me.. although it would never work for two major
    reasons.. number 1.. i am already married to a Gorgeous
    Woman prettier than both of them.. who never gets
    Jealous and Lets me Dance with Unlimited
    Women every Week and of course Number
    2.. i am Old Enough to be their Grandfather
    my God i’m Closer pushing 60 now get ‘a grip’..
    Hmm.. there was also that incident in Walmart Where
    A Group of Young Women did a Mock Wedding With me
    Walking Down the Center Walmart Aisle with the Bride as such..
    Women are much more forward these days than they were when i was
    A Young Lad.. Bootie Dances are attacked from Rear to Front without even
    A Glance of the Young Woman’s Face.. True Many Women are not timid at all
    And they Dam Sure will Rock and Roll Our Stars within too leaving Us Breathless
    without a way out of the Ocean Deep of Love too.. hmm.. Yet some Men would Love
    to still take their Reproductive Freedoms away but NO Miley Cyrus and Iggy Azalea and
    what’s her name.. yep.. let me think.. hmm.. yeah.. she has something in common with
    Iggy.. God i can’t believe her name has slipped my mind.. hmm.. yes! Nicki Minaj funny
    she sings so much about her Private Part that was all i could remember Oh yes typical
    Traditional Male ‘mind’ i still have too.. i GuesS.. hehe.. My Wife says she is in charge
    And does every thing and i do mean everything around the Home.. she even
    schedules the Lawn Maintenance some how Magically Clean Underwear
    And OH GOD SO MANY T-Shirts Come Clean in my Closet Magically
    Hanging up and stacked nicely too.. True the Washing Machine and
    Dryer Fairy Hard at work as the smell of clean clothes
    is always Fresh around the Home and so many
    Gourmet Meals as she does that in her ‘Daisy
    Dukes’ (short shorts) too.. Life is Really
    Good for Males in Traditional
    Marriages i will not Lie
    And Life is even
    Better when
    the Wife understands
    all of what she has going
    on for her and me too so she
    never gets Jealous either hmm.. i don’t
    think Women not getting Jealous is very Traditional
    but as far as House Wives in Charge of the Home My Wife
    has got that really going on.. haha.. it seems that there really
    wasn’t much question whether my First Love was gonna get married
    to me or my Current Wife.. it’s just that this one worked out i just said
    you know what i think it would be beneficial if we got married in a Casual
    Conversation amongst Friends where i worked and she said yes i agree and we went
    from there in success.. i’m not much one for formalities but i usually let’s just say i find
    a way
    to get
    the whole
    Job Done..
    no matter
    what whatever
    it takes i come through still..
    i played the New Iggy Azalea
    Song and my Wife said turn
    that C off same with Nicki
    Minaj’s Song but perhaps
    Miley Cyrus’s New Song
    Will Be Tame enough
    Here to Use as a Song
    all about Women’s
    Rights as such
    as it is very
    true some
    Men even in the
    USA if given an
    Option would take Women’s
    Rights away now even ‘the Right
    to Vote’ as they do not think they are
    ‘smart’ enough to Vote.. not likely they
    have a very Good Home Life my Friend..
    My Wife Choses the Life she wants to Live
    i do not choose that for her but i surely do
    not disagree that most all of her choices benefit me most..
    she is a typical traditional Nurturing Minded/Hearted Women and
    very delicate and easily disgusted too and not afraid to raise her ire either hehe..
    Nag Nag Nag
    Eat Good
    Clean
    Clothes
    Clean Home
    A Few Hugs
    Repeat Dance
    Write Sing Again..
    i don’t take life too seriously
    Obviously.. i used to follow all
    the rules so closely i fell in and
    Almost Drowned.. Life’s a Ball now
    I’m A Squirrel and This is my World Now..
    i inherited it now just ’cause i can and will We
    Will Be Surprised Just how many Stars We Will
    Rattle Within inside outside above so below God Yes
    and all around for fun if We just do it as do it does it best now..
    Some Women
    Go for
    what
    they Want
    and they
    F in Get it ALL NOW
    just the way they want
    it best i am Not afraid of a Strong
    Woman particularly one who is a Real Lioness..
    Oh God Yes when i worked for the Navy those Women
    In Uniform too they called ’em ‘Waves’ Back then they
    could really really Rock An Ocean Beyond the Stars too my Friend..
    there are lots of Societies through History where the Women were
    in charge my Friend.. chances are the Men Were Happier too sure
    Works that Way With Bonobos at least.. as Long as the Male Apes
    keep the
    Female
    Apes
    Desires
    all fulFiLLeD As Such..
    it doesn’t seem like they
    mind a bit in fact they don’t
    mind at all they just get the
    Job Done.. Kick Back and Relax
    Around the Jungle Pond hmm..
    It’s no Lie ‘National GeoGraphicAlly’ Documents that ALL too..
    Hehe Humans on the Other hand have ‘Miley’ For Graphic Documentation now..:)

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  10. I agree,
    Both parties have their different roles/responsibilities. They’re also meant to complement each other, women do what men can’t do, according to me women are advisors and men executes. If this be error then we don’t need both genders.

    It’s so confusing for the kids, when the households roles are mixed up.

    When we leave tradition then we grow into a society that’s confused or divided.

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  11. oggi i tempi sono cambiati. una volta l’uomo credeva di essere forte e credeva (sbagliando) che la donna fosse fragile e debole, e quindi toccava all’uomo fare la parte del leone maschio e corteggiare. Gli uomini di oggi si sono svegliati da quel sogno millenario di forza e potenza e si sono scoperti fragili e indecisi. la donna invece ha acquisito la convinzione della propria forza. quindi cambiano le tradizioni e gli usi. se un ragazzo piace a una ragazza e questo per timidezza, per timore di un rifiuto, perché magari crede di non essere all’altezza, allora è giusto che la ragazza, stufa di aspettare, si faccia avanti.

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    1. Dont know about others, but i couldnt go for it myself i dont know, it makes me shy😂i m not a women who can dominate, i would like to have a guy in my life who is more powerful than me in this kind of situation😊😋🙂but also i honestly like the traditional way, maybe movies, society and environment effected me as well🙄

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  12. If I ever get to that point, it’ll be over a cup of tea in bed as I say calmly « Got this ring here, want to get married? » called from the kitchen no less!
    And my opinion; get married on the quiet and small scale for cheap, then go for a blow out vowels renewal five years later and invite those folks who got pissed you didn’t invite them the first time
    If it doesn’t work out, you’ve saved money for the lawyers!!

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  13. If you at the beginning choose a mate to take the initiative on important issues, and you are the partner that takes the backseat and waits until he asks you. Don’t you expect him to behave that way later? Cheers!

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  14. I, too, would always like a man to be the first to be active. But I know a lot of happy couples when women are active. So I try to be loyal to any relationship in a pair, the main thing is sharing happiness.

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  15. For me each case is different, and people should do what they love and what makes them happy! some guys love this step from the girl and it happens that the girl loves to take the lead and the guy doesn’t mind, because if he does, he will go away I guess so it’s about how much people are compatible together that’s it, not more not less, you love the guy to take the lead, it’s your character so you will choose one that takes the lead, so simple 🙂

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    1. Yes i cant dominate in the relationship, i think is all about personality, before here was mostly the guys who did it, but now more and more often girls does it, because i think maybe some guys are not sure if she says yes and worry and waiting and waiting, so sure both are good😎🤗could you propose to the guy?

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