About mental health
In my last post I was talking a lot about toxic media. I forgot to write that there is also a lot of positive websites and nice media accounts that can be very helpful.
But it is always best to spend more time outside and to talk with people who are around us. Real contact with people and a social life is important for good mental health. There are a lot of people who commit suicide because of loneliness. They don’t have anyone to talk with about their problems, negative thoughts and feelings.
Once we leave social life to the side, afterwards it is not always easy for everyone to come back. With years it can make it more difficult to make new friends. When I look back, I remember how easy it was at kindergarten. You just said hi, what is your name? Let’s play? Sometimes there was different kids, but the conversation always started the same way.
Imagine now you go to the park and sit near someone who came alone. You say hi, what is your name? Let’s go for a coffee together? I don’t think the answer would be, hi, I’m Laura, nice to meet you, sure, let’s do it. The answer would likely be, hi, I don’t know you, I don’t go for coffee with strangers. She would think that there is something wrong with me. Or maybe I want to steal her bag or something. So at a certain age it becomes more difficult. People today are afraid of each other, trust has to be built over time. It takes time to know each other, then in a few months maybe we can go for a coffee. So we shouldn’t push people away who already trust us, people who we know well. It’s not always easy to start a new friendship and new relationship. We should talk to them instead of avoiding or pushing them away.
At least give it a shot. Maybe they can’t help us, but at least we don’t need to carry that heavy stone inside us. It’s always better to share with someone. Maybe your friend is going through a hard time and you can be the light he/she needs.
I have heard people say that mental problems or depression is nonsense, these people are not ill, it’s just an excuse. No, it is not. Mental health problems are real and can develop into heavy depression or even suicide. People laugh when someone says they want to die, asking questions like, so why are you still alive? Go kill yourself if you don’t want to live. These kinds of words don’t help anyone. And these people have no idea what they are saying. If they never had mental problems, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.
Not everyone has the strength to carry on when it becomes too heavy. We have sensitive people in this world, not everyone is carrying a metal heart inside them. We should think before we say something to another person. Especially if you know that he/she is very sensitive and is going through a hard time.
I will leave the rest for the third part.